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How To Develop A Great Attitude In 5 Minutes

Saturday, November 25, 2006

How To Develop A Great Attitude
Do you have a crappy attitude? Do you want to get rid of it -- fast? It's really easy to develop a great attitude. You just need a little mental fine tuning. You can turn your saturnine disposition into a happy and sunny outlook within minutes. Here's how....

What is a Great Attitude?
There are two poles of attitude -- a negative, unhelpful attitude or a positive, helpful attitude.

A negative attitude is considered unhelpful because it will:

a) make you feel moodier and more unhappy;
b) sour your relationship with other people (or just attract other negative people to you);
c) lower your motivation and energy;
d) sabotage your life.

A positive attitude is considered helpful because it will help you to:

a) feel happier;
b) get along with others better;
c) have more energy and enthusiasm for your life;
d) and hence, be more successful.

From those generalizations, the obvious choice is to develop a positive attitude. It just has more going for it than the opposite pole! But there's a problem...

The Challenge of Being Positive
Trying to be positive all the time takes a big effort, and it is unbalanced. Have you ever been around someone who you can tell is forcing themselves to be positive? God, they are exhausting, aren't they? Everything is up and just dandy -- but you can tell this whole persona is an act, a tower built on quicksands. You can tell it is going to crumble and fall apart.
No, forcing yourself to be positive when you don't really feel positive is counter productive. It will make you sick. But there is a solution. There is a way to feel naturally buoyant and positive about your life...

Great + Attitude = ?
So if pushing yourself to be more positive is not the way to a great attitude, what is? There's a clue in the words. Push them together and what do you get? Gratitude! Yes, that's it. You can get rid of your crappy attitude by making a slight adjustment in the way you look at the world. We are like accountants that look at our lives and judge (or account) all the things that are going on. With a crappy attitude we are life's losers and we look around and confirm it to ourselves by 'counting' all the rubbish things that happen to us. You get more of what you focus on, and so with a negative attitude you simply find more and more reasons to justify feeling negative about life. Now if we look at that as a process that starts in the way we focus our minds, we realize that we have the ability to change the focus and get a different result. Instead of working for the prosecution and looking for reasons why we should punish ourselves, we can work for the defense and look for reasons why we deserve to be happy and free. You can continue appraising your life and counting the negative events (which tells your mind that you want more of these). Or you can refocus and start counting all the wonderful things and events that take place in your life. If you do the latter, you will discover a great secret...

The Secret of the Attitude of Greatness
The mysterious secret of gratitude is that it has the power to turn negatives into positives. Something that with your crappy attitude you judged to be negative can be transformed instantly by gratitude into something wonderful and worthy of appreciation. Thankfulness transforms your world. It's like going from a monochrome world to a world of rainbow color. Imagine how people could transform their attitudes to relationships, jobs, families, finances, health, if they came from asking, what do I have to be thankful about here? Crappy attitude asks what's wrong with this picture. Great attitude asks what is right and wonderful and what can I feel grateful for in this picture?

The Building of the Great Full-ness
At a basic level, we want to feel well-fed rather than starving. We want our lives to be fulfilling rather than empty. We want to have a rich emotional love life rather than a barren, loveless life. We want to be rich and prosperous rather than poor and desperate. The way to fill this great emptiness that many feel is with a great full-ness -- and that's what gratefulness does. Start becoming an accountant for the many wonderful things in your life. Count them up and fill your mental treasure house. What you appreciate 'appreciates' in value and grows. What your show an interest in, pays 'interest'. So start where you are and start simple. You are alive, you're breathing -- wahoo! Look around you and start to just say Thank you. You can thank God, or you can thank Life, or even thank yourself. "Thank you for being alive. Thank you for this air that sustains me. Thank you for these warm clothes. Thank you for the breakfast that I just enjoyed. Thank you for this computer that allows me to access wonderful new ideas and information from all over the world. Thank you for my family, friends and loved ones." And so on...

Changing a Crappy Attitude to a Great Attitude Now!
The truth is you can change a crappy attitude to a great attitude right now by changing your focus. Instead of rejecting what you find in your life start to look at what you are (or could be) thankful for. Unlike those high-strung, ready-to-implode individuals that force a positive attitude, you will be naturally positive because you have learnt to appreciate and value life. You won't be fighting anymore in a battle of good and evil. Through thankfulness and gratitude you transcend opposites and see a whole picture working for your benefit. This is the way of a great attitude.

Thank you,

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Creating Space To Think

Friday, November 24, 2006

The Space To Think Creatively
Are you overwhelmed with other people's ideas? I found myself in that state recently. It felt as though my mind was straddling too many paradigms. There was a palpable sense of too much going on in my mind -- as though I was being pulled in multiple directions at once. I felt like I didn't know what I was genuinely about. It persisted for a while until I just got fed up and decided enough was enough. I had to do something. I had to make it different somehow so that I could rediscover and hear my inner voice again. Here's how I went about creating the space to think for myself....

The Book Shelf Clear Out
My small home office was becoming claustrophobic to me. The bookshelves lining two walls were packed with hundreds of books on spirituality, personal development, philosophy, self help, business, success, new age and all the rest of it. It seemed like every book represented another cluster bomb of ideas. And just seeing them there seemed to be triggering the ideas in my mind -- simultaneously -- creating a discordant cacophony like listening to multiple radio stations playing at once. I realized that I had to get away from all these books and tapes with all their distinct and different systems and ways of living. I couldn't hear myself think in their presence. I decided to box them all up and put them in the loft -- out of sight, out of mind. Looking at the empty book shelves in my office, I felt an immediate sense of greater space, order and clarity.

The TV Fast
It occurred to me that I had been watching TV nearly every day since I was a little kid. What a colossal habit it was. I felt like I needed to watch TV for a while every night; I would always scan for movies or put on a DVD to create a distraction from life. I was living vicariously through movies and TV shows. I used to do a lot of fasting and experimenting with different health diets and so on. That gave me a keener sense of what it was like to discipline basic desires -- like hunger. I recognized that on a level that I hadn't even recognized I was addicted to TV. I decided to do a TV fast for 30 days to break the habit. No more movies. No more DVDs. No more Saturday night "Match of the Day" (soccer show). No more reality TV shows! It was a challenge, not a great big one, just a little one. I just wanted to see what would happen as a result of changing this habit. It was also part of this creating space so that my own creativity could arise.

The Newspaper and News Fast
This dovetailed nicely with giving up TV and just added an extra dimension to the creation of inner space. As someone who likes to keep tabs on what is going on, giving up news was another challenge. I'd been aware for months that the level of manipulation in the newspapers and TV news seemed to be getting worse and worse. Stories are reported in ways to manipulate your thinking. You find yourself expressing views that are diametrically opposed to what you are all about -- I saw this happening in myself and others and it worried me. It wasn't that hard to stop watching the news, or reading the newspaper -- apart from the sport pages which were my main port of call.

Unsubscribing From Ezines and Online Newsletter
Never mind the spam, so much utter tosh comes through in legitimate ezines that it's a relief to unsubscribe from them. Some internet marketers are so annoying! They send email everyday. There is only one ezine that I don't mind getting everyday and that is Early To Rise -- the value of what Michael Masterson has to say outweighs for me any concerns about the frequency of mailings. But many ezine owners are as annoying as spam dealers.Get off their lists and save your brain the trouble of acknowledging their presence in your email inbox. See my Brain Spam article.

Restricting Online Surfing
Hmm, I can't say I really bit the bullet on this one. I guess I should have made personal development sites and success-type sites off limits too. But I work online everyday and part of that involves research and it's so easy to stumble upon interesting links... ;-) At least, I've been a bit more discerning.

The Results So Far
It's been about 20 days so far. Which is nothing really (but hey, you try it!). As I said, I felt an immediate improvement in mental clarity from emptying my book shelves and creating space in my office. I had thought I would feel bereft without all my books, but instead it has felt kind of freeing. I haven't really thought about them at all. This ties in with all that good feng shui advice on clearing your clutter. I feel like I am creating a vacuum -- a vacuum for new ideas to come in.

Regarding the TV fast, again I didn't miss it too much. I was a bit grumpy at times the first week. This was a kind of TV detox mixed in with feeling a bit sorry for myself (embarrassing lack of perspective I know!). Saturday night was a bit of a trigger night -- usually the one night when we have dinner in front of the TV as a family -- pizza and pop idol! Plus there is the late night football show already mentioned -- which is my show. But now I don't think about TV at all. And the shows that I felt like I just had to watch before? Now I couldn't give a flying fig about them. Even the football/soccer seems fairly inconsequential.

I've taken a far greater interest in my dreams -- these inner movies have become more elaborate and convoluted. Instead of TV, I think of dreams as "Me-V" -- my own personal adventure movies. I write down all my dreams and later try and figure out what they are telling me.

I've become more productive. I had been in a bit of a creativity and productivity slump for a couple of months or more. I found that I have got a lot more done and also felt more ambitious, more interested in my life and what I can do. Without the lure of TV I am working longer, exercising more, and reading fiction which I hardly ever used to do.

And I've been socializing a lot more this month. Some events that I had been dreading attending turned out to be okay. My social skills were a bit rusty so I did a bit of psycho-cybernetics style visualizing before hand to update my self-image. Suffice to say, I was charm personified. ;-)

Creating Space To Think Creatively
If you want to encourage and develop your own inner genius, you need to create space for it. There is just so much to distract and overwhelm you these days. Take a leaf out of my book, and challenge yourself to go without some oh-so-important things like TV, newspapers, even those precious personal development books. You have the wisdom inside you. There are amazing insights within. Give yourself a chance to hear the voice of your own wisdom. Create some space for it.

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